In the last analysis, what we are communicates far more eloquently than anything we say or do – Stephen Covey
Talk is cheap. Actions can be faked. Somewhere in the background behind these two projections, is the personality that they represent.
No matter how beautifully decorated our speeches and actions are in the public, our private personality; who we really are determines how successful we become.
For instance, if you suffer from chronic low-self esteem, which makes you always feel inferior to others, it will hinder your progress no matter how talented you are.
You can amass tons of academic qualifications; attend the best schools of public speaking; master the craft of diplomacy and protocol, if you do not raise your self esteem, all those would not help you beyond certain limits.
For your success to last, it has to be from inside out. Steven Covey stressed this in his book, ‘Seven Habits of Highly Effective People’, [I recommend it in case you have not read it].
Private victory should precede public victory. You have to rule yourself first before you attempt to rule the world. When you look sufficiently good inside, it spill and people will value you. Empty barrel actually make the loudest noise. They draw attention to themselves too quickly, but nobody wants to look at them a second time because they are empty.
So this is time for self evaluation. In what aspect of your life are you claiming to be what you are not? Identify those areas, write them down and set goals towards developing yourself well enough to fill your barrels in those areas.